Friday, March 12, 2010

WHY YOUR BELOVED IS PUSHING YOU AWAY



Spiritual relationships do not operate like the physical relationships we have grown addicted to. In a spiritual relationship, two people are drawn together because their souls are ready to evolve further along their path and ther souls have sent out a 'ready signal' to the one that shares a similiar vibrational frequency.

In meeting, the bond seems instant, a feeling of finally being home. This feeling is actually a soul recognition. In a spiritual relationship, you form a relationship from the etheral down to the denser physical level. The bond is very deep and very beautiful. But for the one that needs the most healing out of the pair, this bonding process is very frightening.

Every one of my clients that come to me seek me out because they are perplexed by their beloveds' 'wacky' behavior. One minute they are in deep love with them, ready to give them their life, then the next minute they won't answer their phone, emails or text like they do not exist. This leaves the other partner not only confused, but extremely frustrated and in heartwrenching pain.

Why does your beloved do these things? FEAR. This dynamic is call the 'push-pull dance' and its a necessary part of the bonding process in connecting from a spiritual relationship. Most forget that the coming together for any relationship is for the purpose of spiritual growth, first...all else is fringe benefits. Relationships are our incubator for development. In this sacred space, we have the opportunity to correct erroneous thoughts and behaviors about ourselves and others. We have been miseducated to believe that relationships SHOULD BE this smoothsailing paradise where we lick each other until our skin gets ashy...wrong!

When two connect, you will usually find one who holds the anchoring light and one who hold the ambivalent light. Although the love is very strong between the two, it appears that the one who holds the 'ambivalent light' is playing games, but on a deeper level, they are afraid of the intensity of the union. This intensity filtrates down to the soul of a person, its the light of love. The intensity of this love is unlike anything they have ever felt before, so they do not know how to respond, but to run. They come back because they know from a deeper level that this is their path to enlightment.

So what does the one who holds the 'anchoring light' do? Stay the course, have compassion and deepen your spiritual practice. You too are being quickened in your spirit, but the lesson is different, the lesson is on trust and faith. Resist responding in anger and lashing out by playing games. learn to process the feelings that come up in creative ways such as writing, singing, dancing or any energetic release tehniques.

Relationships are changing to it's original intent from Spirit, so all the other junk and misconceptions that we have accumulated must be eradicated. This process must be done on evry level of our being. Those of us that has the ability to hod greater spiritual light and the healing capacity are usually the 'front runners' in this evolutionary stage. be brave and continue to trust and walk your path, no one will be left alone, no one!

Your Friend,
Keesha