When Someone You Love Ain't Acting Right

I cannot count how many clients seek out my services because they are having problems with their mate’s behavior. To them, it seems like no matter how hard they try, their partners just don’t want to follow the “program”. They just cannot understand why someone who profess’ that they love them would do things like runaway, cheat or lie. They come to me feeling the terrible pain of anger, loneliness, frustration and sadness.

The men and women that I work with are not novice to spirituality. Most of them have a great deal of spiritual practice under their belts. They are out in the community sharing their experience strength and hope by helping others to find their path. Yet some of them don’t realize that to be enlightened takes more than having a consistent spiritual practice and feeling connected to the Divine. It means we have to continuously expand our entire being so that it is capable of holding and disseminating light or Source energy. In order for us to be harvesters of the light, our emotional, physical, psychological and ethereal bodies must undergo purification and balancing process that forces us to evolve to a higher level.

There are many ways Spirit can help us go through the evolution process of purification and balancing. For example, those who need to come into alignment with their physical body may experience a series of health crisis or injuries. But for those of us that need the most balancing in our emotional and psychological bodies, Spirit assists us in our evolution via our personal relationships.

We all know by now that our partner reflect the stability or instability of our inner world and the drama that is being played out in our relationships is the very drama that needs to be healed inside of ourselves. But here’s where we trip ourselves up; instead of searching out our inner dysfunctional patterns and healing them, we keep our focus and energy on our partners’ behavior.

There’s this adage about relationships that says, ‘the horns on his head fits the holes in her head.” Meaning, the partner in our lives has the very ingredient that we need to bring up into balance. Now that’s not to say that your mate completes you, its saying that they provide the exact experience or situation to help you to complete yourself.

I recently had a male client whose girlfriend left him. Without warning, she packed her bag and left with another man, needlesstosay, he was almost inconsolable. For months he cried, cussed and drank too much. He could not wrap his head around why the love of his life would do such a thing. He had given her everything she wanted, he would tell me over and over at each of our sessions, yet she still was not satisfied!

Healing Techniques
So what do you do when someone you love ain’t acting right? Should you leave them? Should you get revenge? What? When hit with a devastating blow like my client, most of us blame the partner who is acting out. ‘How dare they do that to me,’ we say to ourselves. Our rage and sadness seems to fill our entire being, and finally we become fixated on either getting revenge or never letting that happen again to us.
We must realize that what we are experiencing with our partner can be used as a service towards our Higher Good, if we allow it to. When I said that to my client, he told me that I was out of my mind, and if I spent one day in his pain, I would not be saying that. Once he was able to calm down long enough, I was able to provide him with some tools to assist him in his healing and growth, the very tools that I will share with you.

Invoke Spiritual Guidance. To invoke spiritual guidance means to ask for spiritual assistance to help you get calm and clear long enough to feel present with our experience. Most people do this by praying or going into a meditative state.
Ask for clarity. Our thoughts and emotions become so skewed and out of focus that our five senses and even our intuition becomes distorted. When you ask Spirit for clarity, also ask that Spirit give you a sign that you have received it. You may get a tingling feeling in your body, a book may drop on the floor, the TV volume may go up unexpectedly; Spirit can use a variety of ways to let you know that It has delivered your request, but you must pay attention!

Ask for revelation. Ask Spirit to reveal to you all the situations and circumstances that brought you to this healing opportunity. Sometimes it’s best to ask Spirit specific questions such as; what has my partner come into my life to teach me? What do I need to do to feel better and move forward? If you follow the first two steps you will be clear enough to ask the questions specific for your situation. Please keep in mind that this step is not a one shot deal. This step can take weeks and even months to get through; it all depends on factors such as timing, and your readiness to face the truth. Every persons answer to their revelation will come about different. You may be prompted to read a book, hear a song, or you may recall a memory or a dream. Again, the important thing is that you remain open to receive information that will reveal the clues to your healing.

Record your progress. I personally prefer writing out my insights, feels and progress in a journal. You can also use recording devices such as a tape recorder or a webcam. This process not only gives you a measure of your growth, but it is very cathartic to release all of that information and emotion that can sometimes get stuck inside our psyche.

Detach from the Drama! This is very important! There’s no need for you to get on the phone cussing and sniveling about how wrong you were treated. You don’t need to get a blow by blow run down on what your ‘transgressor’ has done, is doing and planning on doing. You don’t need to stand toe to toe in a screaming match, nor do you need to call their job and tell their boss how much of a boil they are. No, remember we are focusing on healing and releasing the energetic attachment within us that is bringing these situations into our experience. So keep the focus on you no matter what!

Have Compassion. In the eyes of Spirit, we are all innocent and guilty, Meaning we have all been the victim and the villain. If you can see yourself and your partner in this light, it will be easier for you to detach from the hard negative emotions. Compassion for self is not self pity. Compassion feels the sorrow, yet holds the intention to alleviate it. Compassion for your partner is not condoning their misdeeds. Compassion for your partner is recognizing that they too are learning and evolving, and holding the intention to either support them in their efforts or not to stand in the way of their choices.

In closing, relationships are the incubator for our spiritual growth. If we have the courage to take responsibility for our own suffering and healing you will be amazed at much inner strength, confidence and wisdom you will receive. Please remember that healing and growth takes time and cannot be rushed. Take as long as you need before moving on to the next step. You will know when it’s time to move on forward.

As a precaution, if you feel like you are extremely sad, lonely, angry or frustrated, please reach out for professional medical support. Sometimes the extra support and objective listener can do wonders for our progress. Many Blessings on your next level of spiritual evolution!

Keesha Washington is the founder and spiritual relationship coach at Soul Mate Assistance. She assists soul mates in making sense of the confusion and conflict they are having with their soul mate . She helps soul mates identify and remove any impediments that are blocking their soul mate connection. And she helps individuals step by step in attracting their soul mate into their life.

©2010 all rights reserved Keesha Washington

Spiritual Relationship Restoration 101: COMPASSION

I assert over and over that the old format of relationships is dying as we speak. With the advancement of technology, science and medicine, the survival based relationships are no longer necessary; yet in still, marriages and families are falling apart. And although we have evolved on a material plane, we are still suffering from emotional and spiritual immaturity.

One mode of survival that we have taken on throughout history, that has done us more harm than good, is the false concept of individuality. We were so vulnerable to the elements, animals and disease, our primary focal was on protecting ourselves from these things. We learned to become islands unto ourselves. In the course of shielding from things, we have taken on the attitude of individuality.

The poisonous venom of individuality has become popularized especially through our capitalistic system. To have society tell it, it’s okay to only think about satisfying your needs and desires, even at the expense of someone else. The concept of individuality has created an emotional and ethereal imprint of dysfunction in us, giving us limited access to higher states of consciousness, personal empowerment cooperation and love. Absolutely nothing in the great cosmos acts independent. Scientist and metaphysicians agree that the most fundamental truth of all truths is that all of life and ‘death’ is interconnected. Anything that tries to break away from the interconnectedness will eventually kill itself.

Individuality has limited our ability to feel the full range of our emotions. Individuality has also limited our ability to feel responsibility towards each other. People who live their lives solely from the ‘ I gotta get mines, you got yours to get’ philosophy have closed hearts and are unable to cooperate in loving and supportive relationships. They are not properly equipped to appropriately handle the fluctuations of relating to another.

We have lost our ability to care, to serve and to suffer with one another. Our compassion has been compromised and it must be resurrected in order for us to have successful relationships. It’s unfortunate that a unified response to pain and suffering only occurs when catastrophic events happen in the world, but what about the suffering in the home and in our community?

Compassion is the sympathetic consciousness of others distress and the desire to alleviate it. It is more vigorous than empathy. Compassion usually prompts one to take action towards ending the suffering. To be compassionate in our personal relationships requires that we first drop the individuality person. It also requires for us to learn how to function as an interdependent unit, where I can acknowledge your pain without the fear of becoming engulfed in it.

The demonstration of compassion in our relationships gives everyone the opportunity to learn and grow. It creates a space for love to identify and remove errors. Compassion is not pity, nor is it enabling. Just because you have the desire to alleviate pain, does not always mean that you should or can do it.

In sum, I invite all of us to release the false notion that we are own CPU (Centralized Programming Units). Our natural and divine programming is love and connection. Take time to tune into your relationships “issues” with a just and loving attitude. Let us all take responsibility for holding up our part of love.

Keesha Washington is the founder and spiritual relationship coach of Soul Mate Assistance. She assists soul mates in making sense of the confusion and conflict they are having with their soul mate . She helps soul mates identify and remove any impediments that are blocking their soul mate connection. And she helps individuals step by step in attracting their soul mate into their life.

Why Your Relationships Are Not Working

If your relationship is not working it’s because you do not have a true understanding of what a relationship is and what it takes to be in one! We all want to believe it’s the other person that is messing things up “Look, he’s cheating, hey she’s a nag or he won’t open up to me.” Are some of the common accusations that fly out of the mouths of people experiencing troubled relationships? They will provide evidence and tears to attest to the fact that they have been hurt by the other. One will lash out at the other to ‘pay back’ their bad behavior, and in turn, the other will retaliate in some way, just to even the score! Round and round couples go on the merry-go-wheel of ‘love’, when they will stop, no one knows.

A great majority of us have been miseducated about relationships. Throughout history, people entered and stayed in relationship for reasons other than what they were designed for. Marriage and other romantic partnerships have been based on conditions, by two broken people with a great deal of conscious and subconscious fears. To make matters worse, our societies corporation, media and religious institutions have either cashed in or played into those fears by creating an unrealistic idea of what a relationship ‘should’ be. Is it any wonder why relationships are falling apart!

There was a time in history were we as human believed that we need each other to survive on a physical level, and it was true. We did not always have the same science and technology that we enjoy today. Women, children, the elderly and the handicap had the greatest chance of death or impoverishment. Contracts such as marriage, civil unions and such were set up to ‘protect’ the ‘weaker ones’ in society. These contracts were also used as an assurance that the physical relationship becomes a possession of the parties involved.

We have made great strides in technology and science, so the physical survival of marriages and families is no longer a major issue. But one of the residual affects relationships and families are facing today is emotional and spiritual immaturity.

Now that the earth’s consciousness is shifting to a higher frequency, all concepts, ideologies and applications of relationships and relating to one another is shifting. Within the last ten years or so, many families and marriages have collapsed. This collapsing is occurring because humanity is evolving emotionally and spiritually and we are dissatisfied with the old relationship format.

This evolutionary process will put back into place the real intent of relationships, and that is a union of sharing, caring and cooperation based on unconditional love.

Because humanity has been stuck in the old relationship paradigm for so long, we have been conditioned to have fault expectations of ourselves and our partners. It’s the expectations that are the problem and changing the expectations is the resolution!

Relationships are the incubator for our spiritual growth. Our greatest opportunity for healing and growing spiritually is through our personal relationships. But unfortunately not everyone takes advantage of this opportunity. Our conditioned neediness and ignorance has blinded us from seeing the opportunity. Many of us have suffered behind our fault beliefs and expectations. We have waged war, shut down and shut out the people we claimed to love all because we believe they have failed us; but in truth, we have failed ourselves.

My story

I grew up an abused child. I spent the good majority of my childhood in foster care and residential treatment centers for abandoned children. When I was 15, I was diagnosed with Systemic Lupus. I was very ill and very scared because I had no one that could consistently care for me. Although I managed to go to college and garner some measure of success in my career, I had secretly believed that I was inherently unlovable and that God struck me with this debilitating illness because HE even hated me.

I had no idea what love was and really was not interested in it; I just wanted to be taken care of and someone to tell me that they would never leave me. So of course I married the first man that told me these things. Well, this man had a scorching addiction to crack cocaine, but I married him and had children with him anyway.

On the outside, I looked like this well put together career woman, wife and mother, but on the inside of my home and heart I was an absolute mess! I knew that I was married to a very sick man that had no intentions of getting better. I knew that my children were being traumatized by all of the insanity that was going on in the home, but I would not leave the marriage. I believed like most people that I needed a relationship to be complete, to feel secure. I was scared to absolute death of living a life alone and sick with three dependent children. Most of all, I could not bear the feelings of being unlovable.

Our focus in relationships should be about purifying our faulty belief systems about ourselves, and then we could direct our attention to our partnership. Most relationship has this silent agreement of you do what I say and I will give you what you want. When any disruption to this agreement occurs, panic sets in. The fear is real to them because we have been conditioned to treat each other parasitically; and if he or she leaves, how will we survive?

A Spiritual Awakening

My relationship with my ex-husband brought me to my knees! The insanity and depravity was so great that I was forced to look at no one but myself to take the steps to change. I started out by going to self help support groups and reading empowerment literature, but the most powerful change occurred when I stepped into my own Divinity.

I was not only sick emotionally and physically, but I was sick spiritually. I believed that I alone was the only one acting on my behalf, and that I was alone in a cold Universe that set me up to fail. I did not realize that I was creating my own painful existence and that my opportunities for true healing came in the disguised as neglectful and abusive parents, an illness and being married to a crack addicted husband.

My awakening was slow but steady. First I had to come to my Higher Power for help, then it took time for me to believe that that Power could and would work in my life. Then finally I had to learn to trust , trust in this great invisible force, and trust my own intuition and strength.

Most of us are looking in the wrong place for what we really need. It’s like going to Home Depot to buy milk! The number one reason why people cannot maintain emotional connectivity and fidelity in love relationships is because they are sick spiritually. They do not have a firm belief and practice in the power of spirituality. Their expectations are laid in the belief that their partner can make their lives better. That if only so and so could get there stuff together, my life would be alright. No, it all begins and ends with your commitment to healing your own bout of spiritual illness.

A New Way of Relating

As previously mentioned, men and women are waking up to the truth that the old way must die. But some of them are at a lost on what to replace it with. But as we enter this new cycle of enlightment, we will be forced to go within to make those changes. Unconditional love will be the standard of relationships on every platform, not only in the romantic arena. Unconditional love does not require us to accept the unacceptable in ourselves and in others; it asks that we learn to love ourselves enough to make life affirming choices for our lives and the lives of those we are responsible for. Unconditional love will heal our faulty expectations and provide us with relief from acting like demigods, with the notion that we have to fix everything and anybody.

In Conclusion

When I knew I was strong enough emotionally, physically and spiritually, I filed for divorce. I knew I was ready to release my husband, and the lesson that he gifted to me. I was ready to continue learning self love and acceptance in a different way. I no longer needed pain to teach me. I was scared to death, but I put one foot in front of the other, not sure whether I would be stepping on solid ground, but I did and still am every time. My path is not laid out in gold and roses, but I lean on a lesson well learned in my heart, I trust myself and the unfailing workings of my Higher Power and I do my best not to ‘feed’ on any relationships for my survival.

Take the first step and go within. Reach down and pull the root of your faultiness. Do your best everyday to ask for spiritual guidance and put the footwork into your healing.

Keesha Washington is the founder and spiritual relationship coach at Soul Mate Assistance She assists soul mates in making sense of the confusion and conflict they are having with their soul mate . She helps soul mates identify and remove any impediments that are blocking their soul mate connection. And she helps individuals step by step in attracting their soul mate into their life.


©2010 all rights reserved Keesha Washington, Soul Mate Assistance

Unifying Duality in Relationships

Relationships are the incubator for our spiritual development. Within each romantic relationship, whether it’s heterosexual or homosexual, there is interplay of masculine and feminine energy. Lovers choose each other’s energy dynamic to balance their own, whether they realize this or not.

The masculine and feminine energy are forces, two streams of consciousness. We all have both forces inside of us, and we are here as Divine Beings to learn how to balance these energies so that we can create more love, peace and harmony on the planet.

The Divine masculine force has a positive charge- it is the Will and the Thought. The masculine energy expressions has been characterized as: doing, aggressive, analytical, concrete, impatient, striving, rushing, assertive, left brain, thrusting, organizing, logical, busy, hard and controlling.

The Divine feminine force or consciousness is the negative charge- Receptivity and the Heart. The feminine energy played out in human expression as: being, surrender, intuitive, abstract, patient, tranquil, nurturing, receptive, right brain, receiving, synthesizing, creative, calm, soft and allowing.

These opposite forces reflect the dual nature of our Creator, these are the very forces that arrange and organize this physical Universe.

The spiritual goal, if you will, in romantic relationships is not to accumulate wealth, have tons of pretty babies and die in orgasmic bliss. The goal is for both individuals in the relationship to balance masculine and feminine energy within themselves so that they can become a fully integrated person that can respond appropriately to stimulus within self and outside of self.

We have been taught to either contribute to our romantic relationships from either a hyper-feminine or hyper-masculine position. In order to play these roles, we must neglect a huge part of our being, which creates a whole host of dysfunctional patterns in the relationship. We have become dependent on each other’s energy staying at a stagnated level. Any fluctuations coming from either partner’s energetic field creates a sense of panic and sometimes, an all out war.

Usually crisis or feelings of dissatisfaction forces couples to change the exchange of energy and evolve spiritually. The inner dissatisfaction will reach a tipping point and the Universal Law of Attraction will respond to this inner plead by creating circumstances that offer opportunities for change. The severity of the changes depends on the person’s level of growth and attachment to their energetic identity.

Let’s take the hyper-masculine male partner as an example; he comes into the relationship with a strong need to be the breadwinner. He believes that his contribution to the relationship is how much money and resources he brings into the household. He does not express his emotions and avoids any subject dealing with his feelings.

Say that his obliging hyper-feminine female partner comes down with a disabling illness where she cannot ‘keep house’ or ‘mine the children’ as she had done previously. The male now finds himself at the crossroads in his spiritual evolution. He can choose to cut out of the relationship, keeping his hyper-masculine energy intact, or he can begin to tap into his feminine energy to address the needs of his family.

As he learns to shift between his masculine and feminine energy, he changes the dynamics of the relationship and becomes more secure within himself. He experiences a higher level of creativity and allows more unconditional love to flow within the connection.

As men and women evolve on their own spiritual path, they will find themselves either leaving relationships with partners that ‘suck their energy’, or learning to balance their own energy within the relationships that they are already in.

Women who had previously relied on their mate’s masculine energy are learning how to assimilate their own masculinity. They will take more risks and speak up for themselves. And with practice they will be able to seamlessly shift between energies without losing their femininity.

Men who were dependent on their mate’s feminine energy are also learning how to integrate their feminine aspects from within. Men are having greater challenges in doing this because it is not traditionally accepted. The shift in men is enabling them to express emotions and aspect of creativity that were latent.

In sum, the evolutionary process is forcing us to come into alignment with who we are. The deep inner dissatisfaction of role playing and conditional standards have been the catalyst for change. We are opening ourselves up to power of unconditional love as we reunite the energies from within. We will soon evolve pass the male/ female battle for supremacy and learn to come live together in a field of unified duality.

The Rebirthing Process of Soul Mates

Humanity is going through an evolutionary shift or a rebirthing process. This rebirthing is creating a spiritual restlessness within humanity. Men and women are awakening to their spiritual nature and are taking a good look at the lives they have created. We want more balance, truth and love. Our hearts are awakening to the power of Unconditional love, and we have sounded the vibrational signal out into the Universe, pleading that we are ready, now more than ever, to give and receive love.

The Rebirthing Process is simply the balancing of the masculine and feminine energy, resulting in a male or a female that has the ability to seamlessly shift between either energy when necessary. This process balances both your inner life (spiritual, emotional, and psychological); and outer world (relationships, finances, career/job, health).

Soul mates and Light Workers have been the forerunners to the rebirthing process. We will play a strategic part in serving humanity on a global scale as the planet shifts into a higher vibrational frequency. The new generation of soul mates that have been coming together within the last ten years will set the foundation for a new application of relationships based in unconditional love for future generations to come. Therefore, an excavation, if you will, of our lives has occurred, leaving the unsuspecting feeling the pangs of chaos and frustration.

The relationship format of the years gone by has forced men and women to focus their creative energies from either the masculine or the feminine. This template is completely unnatural and has created disparities, conflicts and dysfunctions in both men and women. This unbalance will be an application of the past as soul mates come into balance with their masculine and feminine energy. This balancing will tear down any and all foundations in your life that is not harmonic.

Soul mates cannot provide a new relationship template if they are still carrying attitudes and belief systems that are based on conditions and distortions from the past. A sort of ‘soul mate safety mechanism’ has been embedded in this evolutionary process. Some soul mates are not even able to come together until they are better able to balance these energies. For example, some couples live thousands of miles apart from one another and cannot see each day to day. These are usually the couples that have a great deal of internal issues that need to be resolved, and the distance gives them the opportunity to work through their issues while still remaining connected ethereally. This safety mechanism ensures that the couples do not build from the former traditional relationship application when they come together under one roof.

For soul mates that are currently going through the rebirthing process my suggestion to you is to be gentle with yourself by affirming that all of these things are happening for your Highest and Best Good. Now is the time to work on resolving issues from your past. As your fears float to the surface, know that they are here to be transmuted. You are the vanguard. You have the capacity to hold more spiritual light and evolve past limited dysfunctional imprints of your past.

We are living in a time of exciting transition. Spirit is moving in our lives in fascinating ways. All things that do represent love, harmony and cooperation will have its end. Soul mates will be on the front line of this evolutionary process, for they will set the template on relationships based in integrity and unconditional love.

Keesha Washington is the founder and spiritual guide of Inner Wisdom’s Way Spiritual Guidance Services. She assists soul mates in making sense of the confusion and conflict they are having with their soul mate. She helps soul mates identify and remove any impediments that are blocking their soul mate connection. And she helps individuals step by step in attracting their soul mate into their life. Consult with Keesha Now!

SOUL MATES BALANCING FOR A GREATER PURPOSE

The Soul Mate connection is absolutely incredible. The loving energy that flows between the couple is very strong and undeniable. There is a magnetic pull that keeps the two hearts together even when physically apart.

There is this aliveness that courses through your veins that is inspirational and delightful. You want to be a better person, you want to just turn yourself inside out for this person because there are no words to explain the love you feel for them. Some cannot understand the draw, the yearning for someone who you would have otherwise overlooked. This can be a maddening existence.

This electricity that flows between soul mates in the initial stages of them coming together is what I like to call the serenade of the souls. This is the stage when two people fall in love with one another, but not from a physical attraction, but on a soul level.

The source that animates this bond is the powerful energy of Unconditional Love; and the binding of two people on this level comes from none other than the intentions and the love potential that lives within each of them. These individuals that are coming together have reached a level of spiritual maturity where they have already invested many years of seeking, reading and reflecting on their spiritual path. Most are already Light Workers with a strong drive to serve humanity. They are beautiful creative souls eager to experience love, cooperation and fulfillment on a deep level. Unconditional love drew these two people together synergistically because they both share a common spiritual bond and they have the ability to hold greater spiritual light and are now ready to transition into fulfilling a greater purpose together.

The energy of Unconditional Love that elevates the vibrational frequency of soul mates is not dictated by our hunger for sex, money and security. The only concern of Unconditional love is to place love in its rightful place and that’s back in the hearts of man.

Oftentimes when soul mates find one another, they immediately conjure up in their minds this great big perfect love affair. Because they have never felt a love so powerful for another, they assume that once they connect with ‘the one’, that it’s smooth sailing from there. But when these expectations are not fulfilled and one or both of them begin to reveal dysfunctional habits or fears. This beautiful relationship begins to breakdown.

But what if I told you that the soul mate relationship has a greater purpose other than the ‘let’s play house’ game. What if I told you that the chaos and dysfunction are the catalyst that forces couples to release issues that disrupts the natural flow of love, and delivers them to their purpose. One soul mate couple that comes to mind is the late Bill W. and Lois Burnham W. the cofounders of Alcoholics Anonymous, and Al Anon Family Groups.

Bill came from a broken family background and had a painful childhood, whereas Lois came from a loving home with parents that adored each other and their children. When Bill and Lois met, Lois was not interested in Bill in a romantic way. He was older and ‘not her type’, but over time they fell in love and got married. Shortly after marrying, Bill went away to serve as in the military while Lois found work, preparing her home for the big loving family she has so hoped to enjoy with Bill.

Neither one of them could have imagined the very difficult times that had ahead of them. While in the military, Bill began drinking heavily and his reputation suffered terribly, so much so that when he came home he could not find work to support him and his wife because word got out how heavily he drank and how irresponsible he had become.

Lois was shocked to find out that her quiet and upstanding husband abused alcohol. When he came home from the war, she found herself the breadwinner of the family because Bill was too drunk to keep a job.

They made four attempts at starting a family, only ending in miscarriages, Lois was devastated! They spent two years without a home of their own, living with family and friends because they never had enough money to own a home of their own.
Bill hit the bottom with his addiction to alcohol and stopped drinking through the help of a spiritually- based alcohol recovery group that he and fellow recovering alcoholic, Dr. Bob later revamped into AA (Alcoholics Anonymous).

Lois on the other hand continued to have a difficult time with the whole ordeal. Bill had humiliated her with his drinking and not being able to support her as her parents had done. She was crushed by not being able to have the big happy family she envisioned, and now that her husband was a sober man, she resented his tireless efforts to help other alcoholics get sober.

Life turned around for the couple when Bill suggested to Lois that she should start a group for families and loved ones affected by the disease of alcoholism. Lois slowly released her resentment towards Bill as she learned about the disease and opened herself to helping other suffering families.

The soul mate relationship has a greater plan and purpose than we can barely imagine. When we let go of our expectations on the direction this union will go and open ourselves up to love’s ways, wonderful things can happen. Although Bill and Lois never had children of their own, they helped many families heal through the fellowship of AA and Al Anon. And, before their death, they were able to finally have a home of their own.

The energy of soul mate love first heals the pains and dysfunction between the duo, enabling their spiritual light to shine. Their light and clarity of vision paves the way for them to serve each other, their families and their communities with greater love and effectiveness. Just let go, open your hearts with love and compassion, allow Spirit to guide you.

THE HIGHER CALLING OF SOUL MATES

We have been absolutely bombarded with faulty concepts, ideas and expectations of love, marriage and family from the time of our birth. These concepts, ideas and expectations rarely, if ever, have anything to do with creating and sustaining these “units”, and connections from a basis of unconditional love, spiritual compatibility and freedom. The old applications of love, marriage and family has been designed and sustained on lower vibration aspects such as fear, prestige, power and control.

Now that the earth’s consciousness is shifting to a higher frequency, All concepts, ideologies and applications of relationships and relating to one another is shifting. This is not a pending event where some believe this will occur around 2012 and there on, it is happening now! Take a look around and you will see that the shift has been occurring within the last ten years or so with the collapse of many, many families and marriages. This collapse has nothing to do with the personal failings of the individuals or units involved, but in truth, it is occurring because of the great spiritual restlessness that has fallen upon humanity as a whole.

A silent activation, if you will, has sent its signal and it is sweeping through the homes and hearts of each and every one of us on the planet. Some of us respond to this signal by going within and following the inner directives of Spirit, whereas others continue to wonder aimlessly from one relationship to the next trying so very desperately to revive the old and quickly dying relationship application.

Those of us who have responded to the silent activation prompting us to change and evolve past the fear- based and conditional concepts of relationship, have found ourselves, in great numbers, entering or standing on the cusp of what I term, the soul mate energy.

The connection that brings soul mates together and keeps the bond thriving is energy, and that energy is unconditional love. It’s the same energy that has awakened many men and women on the spiritual path, and it the same energy that is revolutionizing humanities sleeping consciousness.

See, for so long Hollywood and clever marketing companies have lead us to believe in a romanticized, shallow concept of soul mates where girl find boy, or whatever combination is in vogue, and they go off into their love nest away from the insanity of the world and make babies, stack their 401k plans, get old and die. So with no other format or concept to follow, the soul mates of yesteryears who have found each other have followed this application. Some have managed to build great families and contributed to their communities and humanity in magnificent ways, while others have fallen apart trying to squeeze this great energy of love into societal very narrow format.

The soul mate energy was never intended to be hoarded between lucky couples, as the old application would have all us to believe. The soul mate energy is a spiritual energy based on unconditional love. Its purpose and presence far surpasses romance and nesting, although these things are encompassed within it. The soul mate energy that is now awakening humanity is the same original application by Spirit, but because we are shifting in a higher vibrational frequency, the affects of this energy has greater potency to take on not only the earth’s great population, but also to clean up the many thousands of years of thick, dysfunctional and heavily entrenched relationship formats.

This energy will dismantle any and all beliefs, patterns and dysfunctions that are not in alignment with unconditional love, and replace within the consciousness of humanity a new application of relating to one another that is not only based in unconditional love, but will also quicken our means and methods of creativity and communications.

The soul mates that are coming together now will be the harvesters of this energy. Once these couples begin to balance this energy with proficiency, they will in time be the ones to set the template for the world on of how unconditional love functions within families, love partnerships and even within communities at large.

Soul mates that are coming together at this very time have a great purpose and a great deal of inner work to do. Right now in they are in the incubation period, they are either finding themselves struggling to come together as a unit, or staying together. This is causing great panic for them, but you must understand that they are exactly where they are supposed to be in the evolutionary process.

See, the struggle is merely a purging and purification process taking place. This energy is dismantling any and all beliefs, patterns and dysfunction that are not aligned with love’s energy and installing an inner template of unconditional love so that soul mates can hold greater amounts of light of love and become more fluid in the expression of love, creativity and spiritual gifts. Soul mates are experiencing abilities such as clairvoyance, healing, telepathy, empathy and a whole host of latent abilities are coming alive and being balanced within soul mates all to serve them and others in their mission.

The new soul mates that are coming together stand on the leading edge of evolution, and are being challenged by Spirit to let go of faulty EVERTHING! We are being asked to develop trust and confidence in greater propensity. As my dear friend and highly gifted channeler Mel Brand would call us, we will be the ‘van guards of relationships’ for the coming age and the future!

Keesha Washington is the founder and spiritual guide of Inner Wisdom’s Way Spiritual Guidance Services. She assists soul mates in making sense of the confusion and conflict they are having with their soul mate . She helps soul mates identify and remove any impediments that are blocking their soul mate connection. And she helps individuals step by step in attracting their soul mate into their life. For assistance
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SOUL MATE CONFLICT: BEHIND THE SCENES

The Soul Mate Fantasy
The soul mate connection is a dynamic creative connection that has the ability to awaken latent spiritual powers and infuse the spirit and body with incredible amounts of light and love. The energy that animates this connection is none other than Unconditional love.

The whole notion of soul mates has been overdramatized and severely misunderstood throughout history. This beautiful connection has been hi jacked by Hollywood and clever marketing conglomerates and spun into a carefully contrived fantasy that is meant to keep the masses lonely and yearning for a concept that only exists in the brainstorming rooms of the corporations.

To have Hollywood and corporate conglomerates explain the soul mate connection, it would sound much like this: Girl finds boy, or whatever combination is in vogue, they go off into their love nest away from the insanity of the world; they make babies, stack their 401k plans, get old and die. Any conflict is short lived, accentuated with the latest top pop love song of the week. Soul mates have this cookie- cutter existence, with a safe predictable future.

The Real Deal
Well, I am here to tell you, that is not the truth. The soul mate connection is a gift from Spirit. It is the gift of unconditional love experienced by couples who share this connection, But this gift is not to be hoarded and enjoyed by the ‘lucky few’ that have found their one true love. No, this connection was NEVER intended for that purpose. The soul mate connection and relationship was ALWAYS intended to serve a Higher Purpose in the facilitation of humanities ongoing evolution.

If you have been paying attention, you may have noticed that the two major occurrences have shaken up humanity on a global scale. The first occurrence is the collapsing concepts and formats of families, marriages and relationships as a whole. The divorce and remarry rate is at an all time high. Children are being packed up and shifted off between mom and dad like human ping pongs, and men and women are bulldozing through partners leaving destruction, dysfunction and limped integrity in their wake.

The second occurrence is the rise and coming together of soul mates. Men and women are awakening to their spiritual nature and are being drawn to each other by the magnetic frequency of love and each other’s complementary energy.

What is going on? Has humanity gone topsy turvy? Somewhat, but, not in a haphazard way, but by design.

There has been much rumor and hearsay about the shift in consciousness in humanity. Many predict that this will happen the year 2012 and thereafter. But if you have an observant eye, you will see that the shift has already begun, and the collapse of the old relationship application and rise and connection of soul mates are the most visible evidence.

This shift is the elevated spiritual energy that is turning over the tables of all beliefs systems, ideologies and applications that does not have unconditional love as its basic foundation. And the first and most important chastening is the way we relate to one another; human relationships.

Behind the Scene
This spiritual energy called unconditional love, will dismantle any and all beliefs, patterns and dysfunctions that are not in alignment with itself, and replace within the consciousness of humanity a new application of relating to one another that is not only based in unconditional love, but will also quicken our means and methods of creativity and communications.

Men and women with the greatest potential to hold spiritual light and love, and who vibrate on similar frequencies are being drawn and bonded together ethereally. These couples are what we term soul mates The soul mates that are coming together NOW will be the harvesters and disseminators of this energy of unconditional love. They will be the ones to set the template for the world on of how unconditional love functions within families, love partnerships and even within communities at large. Soul mates that are coming together at this very time have a great purpose and a great deal of inner work to do.

The Root of Conflict
But here’s the kicker… Many and I mean many of these awakened couples are still asleep to the true purpose and intent of their connection as soul mates. They too have been miseducated and mesmerized by the old contrive construct of what soul mates are. So they are caught smack dab in the middle of this shift, flaying and warring against one another with little focus and direction. But can you blame them? Even in the so called enlightened communities, the information and guidance is contaminated by the world ideologies. Very few soul mates of nowadays have the proper guidance and information that will help them navigate this flux of this unconditional love energy, and the power of this beautiful, dynamic and creative relationship with their beloveds.

Soul mates are coming together for a short period of time, then separating. There has been this stop and go pattern working its way through newly formed soul mate couples. One or both are temporarily running away from the connection and into the arms of a safer connection with someone else that’s has less intensity. Or, the one who stays is left baffled, confused and in tears. How could this be happening to the so called vanguards of relationships? Aren’t these great lovers supposed to live happily ever after?

Eventually, but in the meantime, the power of unconditional love has to work its course through the consciousness of these individuals, removing within them any and all notions, belief system and dysfunctions that they have about love and relationships, replacing them with its original application of relationship based on the foundations of unconditional love.

This purge and purification process can be very messy, especially for the couples who are holding on to the old traditional ways of relating and ideas about relationships. These enlightened beings are having difficulty taking on the ways of unconditional love, and allowing Spirit to guide them through. They are still reaching for dying and useless information, guidance and tactics that serves to push the relationship deeper and deeper into a lower frequency.

Couples are attacking, running and blaming each other for not living up to their expectations. Some are even blaming each other for the overwhelming feelings of love, magnetism and longing for one another! But the real ‘enemy’ is the dysfunctional relationship patterns hidden within them.

Couples can begin to come together in gentlier ways if they relax and allow Spirit to teach them its ways of love. In future articles I will go into greater details on how this can be done.

In conclusion
Soul mates, you have a greater purpose. The unconditional love that you begin to share with your beloved will eventually be the template to the new application of how humanity will relate to one another in all facets of society. Yes, you will have the bliss, but right now, you got to earn it!

Keesha Washington is the founder and spiritual guide of Inner Wisdom’s Way Spiritual Guidance Services. She assists soul mates in making sense of the confusion and conflict they are having with their soul mate . She helps soul mates identify and remove any impediments that are blocking their soul mate connection. And she helps individuals step by step in attracting their soul mate into their life. To contact Keesha
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Soul Mate Relationships Must Be Earned!

If you are reading this article, then you already understand that relationships from a spiritual point of view are a gift from the Divine that assists us in our spiritual evolution in becoming and experiencing the fullness of love for ourselves, each other and the Divine. Relationships provide us the perfect playground to act out all of our “issues”. Because each of us have come to this life to learn, balance or master various dimensions of love, you will find that each person and each relationship is unique, yet equally important to the development of all that is involved.

As one begins to awaken to the truth that we are spiritual beings having a human experience, and we become mindful and diligent in growing spiritually, a shift will take place both in our relationship with ourselves and others. We will become less tolerant and willing to participate in behaviors and mindsets that do not support our awakened spirits. In old biblical terms, we become unequally yoked. Eventually we must make choices, and in some instances, choices will be made for us in regards to whether or not we will leave the relationships or make the necessary change to support the transformation of it.

As of late, what I am finding is that, a great number of us walking our spiritual paths have made the choice to leave relationships where our partners, for one reason or another, refuses to awaken spiritually. We begin to feel this very deep and compelling yearning within ourselves to find that spiritual complement that we believe will loves us for the rest of our days and support us in our journey. We believe that we are now ready to find our soul mates! But have we really earned it? Yup, earned it!

As above so below, was the Universal wisdom imparted to us by Jesus the Christ. What does this mean and what in the world does it have to do with the soul mate relationship? Absolutely everything!

Jesus’ wisdom revealed one of the most important spiritual laws of creation. It states that all things must be done in consciousness before it can be manifested in the material. All things, from manifesting a home, a car, even your soul mate relationship. It takes much more than having the sheer desire to live in bliss with your beloved, it takes work!

The work that is involved in attracting and maintaining a soul mate connection is not work from the ego that drives us to search outwardly for our mates. This work has nothing to with making ourselves look more attractive, smart or wealthier. This ego-based hunter-gatherer style of finding a mate no longer serves the person who is seeking to evolve spiritually, and it most certainly will not work in finding your spiritual complement. ALL work must be done in the spirit, in order for one to attract and maintain a soul mate connection. So how does one work from the spirit in attracting our soul mate? Well I am here to tell you!

The first thing that must be done is what I like to call, the inner assessment. No one and I mean no one leaves or enters a relationship without carrying some type of belief system about love and relationships. Taking an inner assessment will reveal to you just what those belief systems are. If you are honest, you will find that most of your beliefs about love and relationships are not your own and/or they do not support the unconditional love that is required in a spiritual connection such as soul mate relationships.

The next step that one must take is what I termed, the recalibration. Most of us were attracted to the spiritual path because it affords us the freedom to learn, think and create from a place that is most natural for our unique experience. As we walk the path and slowly shed false beliefs about love and relationships, what emerges from us is an inner directive that enables us to view love and relationships from a higher vantage point. From this view, love and relationships are no longer a game of cat and mouse, one begins to take attributes like character, integrity, fidelity, and honest seriously. In the recalibration step, we replace passed down beliefs and fears about love and relationships, and replace them with spiritual attributes that flow more to the side of unconditional love.

Once you have done the first two clearing steps, the third step is what I call making the give and take list. If you were anything like me, you ran screaming like my hair was on fire from my previous relationships. I believed I was keenly aware of what I did and did not want from a soul mate relationship. I immediately made my lists of qualities that I sought out in a partner, but back then, I was only half way on the mark with this step. In making the give and take list, we not only have to make a list of attributes that we would like in a partner, we must also make a list of the qualities and attributes that we can bring to the relationships as well. Would I like to be a partner to you…forever? Are you ready, willing, able to do what it takes to evolve in this special bond? Do you understand the seriousness of this connection as it relates to your evolution?

When all three steps, the inner assessment, the recalibration and the give and take list, are complete, the final thing to do is to let it go and trust that your soul mate will enter into your reality. There is absolutely no need to get all gushy up to go to the gas station or grocery store ‘just in case’ you bump into ‘the one.’ No need to search high or low for them. Let the Universe deliver the goods. Besides, no amount of physical adjustments will really make the difference, your soul mate will know recognize you from a spiritual recognition not physical, so relax about it!

While you are waiting for your special delivery, it would serve you and your partner good if you continue to challenge any false belief systems about love and relationships as they rise from your subconscious. Manifesting and meeting your mate is not the end all to be all in your evolution, because relationships, even soul mate relationships are designed to assist you in your evolution on the path, you must be diligent about dismantling beliefs of all nature of a lower vibration in all phases of your relationships.

Although this work can shake us up either a little or to our core, keep in mind that this is what it take evolve on the spiritual path. Your reward is not just a beautiful, loving mate, your reward is actually a beautiful loving you!

Keesha Washington is the founder and spiritual guide of Inner Wisdom’s Way Spiritual Guidance Services. She assists soul mates in making sense of the confusion and conflict they are having with their soul mate . She helps soul mates identify and remove any impediments that are blocking their soul mate connection. And she helps individuals step by step in attracting their soul mate into their life. To contact Keesha for assistance in your soul mate connection, Keesha

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