Please throw away all those magazines and books that tell you what to wear, and how to act to get a partner. Unless they are talking about vibrational frequency, they are misleading you away from the truth. The information generated by the mainstream media on mating and dating only focuses on the physical maneuvering of matter. But the truth is, we are first vibrational beings with the awesome power to attract and repel energy in all forms. So wouldn’t it be wise to handle all maneuvering from an energetic standpoint.
Stop going to the clubs, the bars and online singles website, unless synchronistic events have lead you there but if you really want to find your mate there are several things that you can do to deliberately draw them into your reality.
KNOW YOURSELF:
What are your values? What are the principles you live by? What are your personality and spiritual strengths? What are your goals? What are your known personality impediments and what are you doing to address them? It is so important to at least begin understanding how you operate because when your match is drawn to you, you will know that they are the one. Do not worry if you can’t answer all of the questions, because some questions cannot be fully realized until you are actually in a relationship where challenges may force you to take stock or reevaluate who you say you are and what you say you believe. So, my suggestion is for you to take some time to write out these questions and answers.
UNDERSTAND YOUR PAST
What do you think a new relationship will provide for you than your previous relationships? What has been the pattern in your previous relationships? Where were you strong in the dynamic? Where were you weak? What can you now contribute in a new relationship? What are you willing to learn from a new relationship?
See, we jump from one person to the next thinking that we will get a ‘fresh start’ from the misery or confusion from the former connection, but in truth, you bring yourself where ever you go and you also bring your past. Although it’s nearly impossible to clean up all of your ‘issues’ before entering a new connection, believe me when I tell you that you will be ahead of the game If you at least attempt to own up to the part you played. Also it’s a great thing to know not only the drama you create, but your areas of strength, we all have them, but often overlook them.
UNDERSTANDING YOUR EXPECTATIONS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
Oh, this is a biggie. We all have expectations about what a relationship looks and feels like. We have our tastes on how we believe they should operate, but what I want you to observe in yourself is these questions: Where did I get my ideas about relationships? Do they serve me for who I am right now in life? From what I have learned through my personal experience, what do I now believe about relationships?
WHAT WOULD I LIKE IN A MATE?
We are all drawn to a pretty face and beautiful body, but those are the first to go out of the window when you find that that pretty face and beautiful body lacks integrity and inner security. So what is it that you really seek in a mate? Are you a light worker where service is a strong priority? Are you a high energy person who seeks a less energetic person to provide balance to your energy? Do you have children or want children? What values and principles would you like to share with this person?
We need to know what the Universe is delivering to us, so if the person is not quite what you wanted, you can clarify your list.
WHAT DO I HAVE TO CONTRIBUTE
We just have to go into relationships from a place of empowerment and self sufficiency. This needy, guilt-ridden, manipulative controls has to be put to bed, it’s tacky, hurtful and counterproductive. So with this in mind, what is it that you are willing to contribute to the connection?
Our relationships are changing folks, and we must change as well. The games, manipulations and illogical ways of relating to each other are being quickly snuffed out by Spirit. We must learn to get use to seeing ourselves as vibrational beings that has the power to attract anything that we want in our lives. We must also take personal responsibility for all of our manifestations, knowing that we do have the ability to change whatever it is that no longer serves us.
One of the most disturbing trends that I see in both men and especially in women, is forcing love connections. When a man or woman crosses your path and you are attracted to them, please know that that is only the beginning. But in time, if you find that you do not share important values, ideas and principles, its best to end the connection right then and there. See what is happening is, your vibrational frequency that drew the two of you together, was not enough to keep you together. One or the other has changed frequency, and that’s alright, it happens, they are not the one. The one, will flow with you on a vibrational level, and although you will not always be at the same frequency all the time, your energy will automatically support one another creating a very strong spiritual bond. This is energy, so threatening, screaming, guilting and crying will do nothing for you or your connection. Learn to get still ans focus your energy. Remember also that everyone ain’t for everybody, and a wise and focused person will know this as truth by accepting it and moving on
I hope this information has served you by offering you some insight on the truth of manifestation in the area of relationships. Be honest and gentle because we live in an honest, loving, wise and compassionate Universe that always seeks to give to us our hearts desire, so my goal is to help you to understand exactly what it is in your heart you seek. Blessings always.
Keesha Michelle Washington is a Spiritual Life Guide that supports men and women in living in integrity with their spiritual values and principles. She also assists men and women in finding and maintaining spiritual relationships. She is available to answer questions about spiritual relationships and spiritual growth through her inbox here on FaceBook . You can learn more about her service work by visiting her websites.
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first thing one must do is get to know yourself and what it is that you are looking for and what you would like to contribute in a relationships. Remember, we are placing our order for our mate by sending out a vibrational signal
