Spiritual Relationship Restoration 101: COMPASSION

I assert over and over that the old format of relationships is dying as we speak. With the advancement of technology, science and medicine, the survival based relationships are no longer necessary; yet in still, marriages and families are falling apart. And although we have evolved on a material plane, we are still suffering from emotional and spiritual immaturity.

One mode of survival that we have taken on throughout history, that has done us more harm than good, is the false concept of individuality. We were so vulnerable to the elements, animals and disease, our primary focal was on protecting ourselves from these things. We learned to become islands unto ourselves. In the course of shielding from things, we have taken on the attitude of individuality.

The poisonous venom of individuality has become popularized especially through our capitalistic system. To have society tell it, it’s okay to only think about satisfying your needs and desires, even at the expense of someone else. The concept of individuality has created an emotional and ethereal imprint of dysfunction in us, giving us limited access to higher states of consciousness, personal empowerment cooperation and love. Absolutely nothing in the great cosmos acts independent. Scientist and metaphysicians agree that the most fundamental truth of all truths is that all of life and ‘death’ is interconnected. Anything that tries to break away from the interconnectedness will eventually kill itself.

Individuality has limited our ability to feel the full range of our emotions. Individuality has also limited our ability to feel responsibility towards each other. People who live their lives solely from the ‘ I gotta get mines, you got yours to get’ philosophy have closed hearts and are unable to cooperate in loving and supportive relationships. They are not properly equipped to appropriately handle the fluctuations of relating to another.

We have lost our ability to care, to serve and to suffer with one another. Our compassion has been compromised and it must be resurrected in order for us to have successful relationships. It’s unfortunate that a unified response to pain and suffering only occurs when catastrophic events happen in the world, but what about the suffering in the home and in our community?

Compassion is the sympathetic consciousness of others distress and the desire to alleviate it. It is more vigorous than empathy. Compassion usually prompts one to take action towards ending the suffering. To be compassionate in our personal relationships requires that we first drop the individuality person. It also requires for us to learn how to function as an interdependent unit, where I can acknowledge your pain without the fear of becoming engulfed in it.

The demonstration of compassion in our relationships gives everyone the opportunity to learn and grow. It creates a space for love to identify and remove errors. Compassion is not pity, nor is it enabling. Just because you have the desire to alleviate pain, does not always mean that you should or can do it.

In sum, I invite all of us to release the false notion that we are own CPU (Centralized Programming Units). Our natural and divine programming is love and connection. Take time to tune into your relationships “issues” with a just and loving attitude. Let us all take responsibility for holding up our part of love.

Keesha Washington is the founder and spiritual relationship coach of Soul Mate Assistance. She assists soul mates in making sense of the confusion and conflict they are having with their soul mate . She helps soul mates identify and remove any impediments that are blocking their soul mate connection. And she helps individuals step by step in attracting their soul mate into their life.