Unifying Duality in Relationships

Relationships are the incubator for our spiritual development. Within each romantic relationship, whether it’s heterosexual or homosexual, there is interplay of masculine and feminine energy. Lovers choose each other’s energy dynamic to balance their own, whether they realize this or not.

The masculine and feminine energy are forces, two streams of consciousness. We all have both forces inside of us, and we are here as Divine Beings to learn how to balance these energies so that we can create more love, peace and harmony on the planet.

The Divine masculine force has a positive charge- it is the Will and the Thought. The masculine energy expressions has been characterized as: doing, aggressive, analytical, concrete, impatient, striving, rushing, assertive, left brain, thrusting, organizing, logical, busy, hard and controlling.

The Divine feminine force or consciousness is the negative charge- Receptivity and the Heart. The feminine energy played out in human expression as: being, surrender, intuitive, abstract, patient, tranquil, nurturing, receptive, right brain, receiving, synthesizing, creative, calm, soft and allowing.

These opposite forces reflect the dual nature of our Creator, these are the very forces that arrange and organize this physical Universe.

The spiritual goal, if you will, in romantic relationships is not to accumulate wealth, have tons of pretty babies and die in orgasmic bliss. The goal is for both individuals in the relationship to balance masculine and feminine energy within themselves so that they can become a fully integrated person that can respond appropriately to stimulus within self and outside of self.

We have been taught to either contribute to our romantic relationships from either a hyper-feminine or hyper-masculine position. In order to play these roles, we must neglect a huge part of our being, which creates a whole host of dysfunctional patterns in the relationship. We have become dependent on each other’s energy staying at a stagnated level. Any fluctuations coming from either partner’s energetic field creates a sense of panic and sometimes, an all out war.

Usually crisis or feelings of dissatisfaction forces couples to change the exchange of energy and evolve spiritually. The inner dissatisfaction will reach a tipping point and the Universal Law of Attraction will respond to this inner plead by creating circumstances that offer opportunities for change. The severity of the changes depends on the person’s level of growth and attachment to their energetic identity.

Let’s take the hyper-masculine male partner as an example; he comes into the relationship with a strong need to be the breadwinner. He believes that his contribution to the relationship is how much money and resources he brings into the household. He does not express his emotions and avoids any subject dealing with his feelings.

Say that his obliging hyper-feminine female partner comes down with a disabling illness where she cannot ‘keep house’ or ‘mine the children’ as she had done previously. The male now finds himself at the crossroads in his spiritual evolution. He can choose to cut out of the relationship, keeping his hyper-masculine energy intact, or he can begin to tap into his feminine energy to address the needs of his family.

As he learns to shift between his masculine and feminine energy, he changes the dynamics of the relationship and becomes more secure within himself. He experiences a higher level of creativity and allows more unconditional love to flow within the connection.

As men and women evolve on their own spiritual path, they will find themselves either leaving relationships with partners that ‘suck their energy’, or learning to balance their own energy within the relationships that they are already in.

Women who had previously relied on their mate’s masculine energy are learning how to assimilate their own masculinity. They will take more risks and speak up for themselves. And with practice they will be able to seamlessly shift between energies without losing their femininity.

Men who were dependent on their mate’s feminine energy are also learning how to integrate their feminine aspects from within. Men are having greater challenges in doing this because it is not traditionally accepted. The shift in men is enabling them to express emotions and aspect of creativity that were latent.

In sum, the evolutionary process is forcing us to come into alignment with who we are. The deep inner dissatisfaction of role playing and conditional standards have been the catalyst for change. We are opening ourselves up to power of unconditional love as we reunite the energies from within. We will soon evolve pass the male/ female battle for supremacy and learn to come live together in a field of unified duality.