So I met my soul mate, why is my life falling apart?

If you have had the privilege of meeting ‘the one’, you are indeed blessed beyond words. And for those who have yet to bump into your beloved, hold your horses, they are on their way. I say that meeting your soul mate is a blessing beyond words because it is. It’s an opportunity to feel the rapture of love and to finally step into the man or woman that you were intended to be.

There is so much garbage written and portrayed out here about soul mates that when one encounters this energy and when real freaky scary, life altering stuff happens, not only are we confused, we find ourselves cursing the day we set eyes on them. We have been told that once the love of our lives enters the picture, we can then spend the rest of our days in sexual bliss, obvious to the cruel world around us. Nope, I seem to always be the one to break the bad news to everyone, but the truth shall make us all free, and here is the truth.

If you have connected with your Divine counterpart, nine times out of ten, you have earned this connection, you and your beloved has showed enough devotion to your spiritual growth and reached a vibrational pitch signaling not only the magnetic pull towards each other, but also altering your Higher Self that you are ready to enter a higher path of spiritual enlightenment. See this connection is not all about romance, baby making and long strolls on beautiful beaches, it encompasses this, but oh, it is so much more.

Let me set the record straight, this is first and foremost a DIVINE CONNECTION, not a Hollywood fairytale. It feels as though you have connected with something or someone truly magnificent outside of yourself, and you have, in a way, but let’s not forget, that all roads lead ‘home’; home is our Divine Connection with Source energy, and the road you are now taking is Soul Mate Road. There are many roads home, but you signed up for this one.So although you feel the bliss of love with your beloved, this is not the time to take your eyes off of your spiritual growth, actually, coming into this connection will accelerate your growth.

Balancing

This connection with your beloved does some amazing things like open the heart chakra allowing you to feel love like never before; It also opens the third eye and crown chakra enabling you to have access to higher intelligence and telepathic communications. But most importantly, this energy opens you up to your Higher Self. Now once you connect with the Higher Self, oh boy, hold on because the ride is going to be bumpy for a while.

See, your higher Self has only one concern and that is for you to stay in alignment with you. Some of us truly believe that we are being as real as we can, but in truth we are not. We are all out of balance energetic-wise and we are all carrying dysfunctional beliefs about what love and loving is.

To truly be a fully functioning, fully integrated human being having a spiritual experience, we must become balanced with both our masculine and feminine energy. We hold within us both energies, but rarely do we take full advantage of these energies, resulting in men and women, so ignorant and out of touch with each other, that we cannot help but to create dysfunctional mayhem. The masculine and feminine energies together create a whole healthy human. When these energies are balanced with an individual, you have a male or female that can respond to life with reverence and appropriateness. This individual can seamlessly and unabashedly shift between his or her logic and intuition to address inner and outer situations. But thus far we have a globe full of men and women that are addicted to one energy, men relying solely on their masculine energy, and women relying on their feminine energy. This is wrong, and it does not flow with nature one bit!

This out of balance relationships with our energy creates not only a serious misalignment within us; it creates a very sick and parasitic dependency on the opposite sex. See, if the female who rely basically on her feminine energy, in time she will come to believe that she need a ‘man’ to take up the slack of her underdeveloped masculine energy; this dynamic not only diminishes her creative forces, self expression and feelings of empowerments, it will, without fail, set her up to be victimized.

What about the chaos I am experiencing?

The chaos that you believe you are experiencing is not chaos at all. I have some client’s loss their jobs, good health and close relationships since entering their soul mate energy; why is this? As stated time and time again, soul mates that are coming together have very important work to do, as the planet shifts into a higher frequency, not only will soul mates serve humanity as light workers and way showers, they will also come together as templates for how a balanced relationship is suppose to function. A template that is void of parasitic elements of the relationships of the past.

The chaos begins to occur when one does not understand that the Higher Self is now in full control at this point. The Highest Self main job is to bring you back to the natural order of living, and that is to assist you in balancing your masculine and feminine energy. Your Higher Self will work directly with the Universal Law of Attraction, bringing into our experiences that will help you to correct your energy misalignment.

So what does this look like? It looks different for every individual, but generally, for a male that is not accustomed to tapping into his heart-centered energy to make decisions, the Higher self will continuously bring into his experiences opportunities for him to act from that place, he may even have to make the choice of giving up his worldly comforts so that he can enter into a loving, spiritual bond with his soul mate. This is a challenge for a man that uses his logic and physical being in all his affairs, he must learn to trust love and the wisdom of the heart, we must learn to befriend his feminine energy.

For a woman who is used to only acting from the feminine energy, she may be challenged by having situations that come her way, one after another, that will force her to be less dependent on the ‘man’ as her source of strength and security, she will come into her masculine energy where she will be less likely to use manipulative tactic of the past to feel secure, she will have that security within.

The chaos that one feels is actually an opportunity for you to create a new foundation for your life. A foundation that will bring together you and your beloved in a harmonious union and it takes time, shifting and letting go of things in our lives that forces us to act out of balance energetically. We must learn how to use every part of our being to rebuild the new. This is undoubtedly a challenge for men who don’t want to give up the ‘manly man’ image, and the women who are afraid of ‘looking like a man’. There will be a period of excruciating loses and decision making, until soul mates get to the point of true surrender and bring themselves back to the truth of this Divine connection, and that is enlightenment.

We must be ready to be challenged far pass our dysfunctional concepts of how a man and a woman are suppose to function. We must look beyond the loss of worldly possessions and see the wisdom of this energy alignment, and know that Iwe have the courage to follow through on our own enlightenment, the power of Unconditional Love will indeed see us through.